A man once said, "I used to argue with my wife. Then one day I realized that I did not
like to lose an argument because I did not want to be a loser. On the other hand, if I won the argument, then my wife would
have lost, and I did not want to be married to a loser. The only solution was to stop arguing."
In marriage, there is no winner or loser. In any given situation, both spouses either win or lose.
The secret of peace in the home is the awareness that husband and wife are one unit. When they love each other, they
also love themselves, and when they respect each other, they also respect themselves.
The Torah emphasizes the concept of unity in describing the marriage relationship: Man
shall cling unto his wife and they shall be one. Genesis 2:24 Any situation where one considers himself superior to
the other falls short of this concept of marriage.
